who pays the bill?

[PrincessB]

You finally  got the lady to say yes to a date.

You decide to wine and dine her, or take her

somewhere special.

Brothers would you want to pay the whole

bill or would you expect her to pay half or

contribute to the bill payment?

Or do you think being a Man that, that, is your total

Gentlemanly  responsibility to pay?

This is your chance to let us Ladies know how you

all feel.

Ladies please feel free to drop your comments too,

after all this is all about communication between

the 2 sexes.

[miguel]

for me the important is not who pay the bill but the date.because if u are in love for this person is not the bill the important matter.but if u want to be gentlement u can pay the bill and may be next time she another bill because now the rigths are equals for each sex.

[PrincessB]

miguel, my point is.. there is no love yet... because it is just a date to see

how you get on. On the other hand it could be someone you already have

strong feelings for. Either way, who pays for the bill?  Remember you might

not even have a second date with the person.

[miguel]

when u go on a date if u dont stay in love u have away of atraction for this person can be physics or simple for friendly this person can be.than maybe if have second date why dont care about the bill but the person,to enjoy the food and the company.

[PrincessB]

Some men like to pay all the bills.

Some feel offended when a woman wants to pay her way.

Some women expect a man to pay all the bills

Some women like to share the bills.

Some women prefer to pay their way, in order not to be

obligated to the man.Some women even prefer this method

because it means the man cannot use *I paid for her to

have a good time, and she used me* as a weapon against

them if things do not work out.

[miguel]

for the moment i dont have words,but only agree with u.this is a world before make any step u have to think very well because a simple bill can cause trouble and misunderstand between woman and man.

[PrincessB]

When a man asks me out on a date, I automatically say to him,

I would like to pay my share. Then I wait for him to say yes or no.

Most men will appreciate that gesture, and can then tell you, they

would like to pay the whole bill.

I feel that this shows that a woman is not greedy and out to

get what she can from the man.

On the other hand sometimes a man wants to take a woman out

but has not got enough money, in this case it is the perfect time

for the man to accept her gesture.

[ifeoma_roberts]

PPL THERE ARE CERTAIN CULTURES WE MUST NOT TOUCH FROM ALLTHESE BORROWED CULTURES OF OURS,IN NIGERIAN CULTURE THE MAN TAKES THE BILL AND PAYS THAT DOES NOT MEAN THE WOMAN IS INCAPABLE OF TAKING CARE OF THE BILL. BUT THE CASE IS DIFFERENT WHEN YOU ARE MARRIED YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO SUPPORT YOUR HUBBY.

[PrincessB]

I have to say..the world has become a smaller place. People of all nations move around migrating and emigrating

all the time. As such we find ourselves embracing other trends, languages foods, cultures etc.

For example as a Nigerian you are typing in English. You embrace the English language and use it. Yet you are

trying to say something is wrong with other people's ideas of who pays for an evening out.

Do you know that in some African cultures it is the women that pick their husband? That's the variety of life.

Life is so beautiful, we are all blessed in that we have our own ideas and that does not make them right or wrong.

Don't forget that also Nigerians do marry people of other nationalities. Now you have the meeting of 2 cultures.

This is where understanding and respect come into play. I say, what ever makes the 2 people happy is the correct

rule for them. The 2 will compromise and that is all it takes

PrincessB

It simply makes us an individual with a healthy mind.

[Memunah]

I pay the bill? Says Who? He invited me over for a date whether I've got feelings for him or not.He is definitely going to pay the bill and for heaven's sake it's our first date he should at least portray himself well and pay our bills cos FIRST IMPRESSION LASTS LONGER.So he MUST pay the bill primarily cos it's a first date,if we get along well and we actually start dating I can pay the bills(_{which is a matter of choice thou)}

                HE PAYS MY BILLS

[PrincessB]

I agree with you, many men like to be the Perfect Gentleman

on the first date.   Indeed that makes a good impression!!!

[ChiomaAnago]

It realy does not matter who payst the Bill, but if the guy wants another date he better pay the bill on the first Date. If it is with an independent woman who likes to do things by themselves then he better be ready to fight for the bill.

[PrincessB]

It realy does not matter who payst the Bill, but if the guy wants another date he better pay the bill on the first Date. If it is with an independent woman who likes to do things by themselves then he better be ready to fight for the bill.

I have been in a situation where I wanted to share the bill. He could not understand
why I felt I had to pay half. Since he insisted and said it was all his pleasure, I allowed him
to be The Perfect Gentleman