The problem: Man-pleasing
The symptoms: If he feels like sex, you have sex. If he wants a blow job, you spend hours down there (or just minutes because you've perfected your technique with deep throat as standard). Whatever he wants, he gets, but when it comes to your pleasure, neither of you are really sure what you like. As long as you're keeping your partner happy, you're satisfied. Relationship expert, Tracey Cox says: 'You'd think that man-pleasing would have gone out with the '50s but it's still a common issue. And though some men do love it, they're not generally the kind of blokes who'll be able to offer you a healthy relationship.
'Man-pleasing smacks of insecurity you're scared that if you're not the 'best lover ever' your partner will leave you and insecurity just isn't sexy. So work on your confidence and, if you're single, take a break from dating for a while to show yourself that you can have fun on your own. It's also worth bearing in mind that man-pleasing can backfire on you. Most men like it when their partner enjoys themselves so your orgasm is just as important to them.'
It takes two people making an effort for great sex and sometimes it really is better to give than receive
