NIGERIAN CHILDREN IN UK.

[debos]

How can we train our children in the way of our culture in this country?

[Admin]

I think the best way is to teach them the way we want them to behave, also children do follow exmaple so we should lay a good example.

[Debo]

We should try to analyse the proper way to train our children in other to not oppose the law of this country. please, in what way can we do this? let go into scripture,proverb 22) VERSE 6.

It says train your child the way is should grow when he grow he will not depart from it.

[KoolME]

i agree with all that has been written so far... but nigerian parents need to learn to adapt. You can still bring your child up the way you were brought up... but this does not necessarily mean that the child would be disciplined... what nigerian parents forget is that the mentality abroad is different... a kind of  punishment that works for a child brought up in nigeria would not necessarily work for a child brought up here in the uk.... you need to modify your parenting skill to go with the child you are parenting.

[spencer]

the first and most important thing is the fear of the lord in the parents. GOD has set the same standard for all mankind to follow either white ,red, green.or black men secondly you must never forget your roots where you came from and the mentality concerning your race and creed will determine how you raise your kids even if you live in the moon.

[PrincessB]

Debos

Children follow and live by the example we set them.

Your culture should be your way of life.

It should not be something that you have to conciously

be thinking about.

It should be automatic.

PrincessB

[miguel]

For me educate a child gona be more difficult i'm not nigerian ,my wife is nigerian,my child gona be britsh.no the important is give the real value of life and start with education in home respect to be respect.

[PrincessB]

I think that what we are really looking at first of all is

teaching children how to respect others, and good

morals. These are the basic skills in life.

Once these are in place children will learn about the

parents cultural values automatically.

If you live your life a certain way, your child will observe

and imitate you.

[ifeoma_roberts]

FOR THE FACT THAT A KID IS BORN IN THE UK OR ELSE WHERE DOES NOT MEAN U CANNOT DISCIPLINE A KID. CHECK THE BOOKS OF PROVERB.THERE IS A GREAT DIFFERENCE BETWEEN DISCIPLINE AND ABUSE. SOME PEOPLE BELIEVE THAT CHILDREN SHOULD NOT BE HEARD THAT IS NOT DISCIPLINE. CORRECTING A CHILD AND LETTING THE CHILD KNOW THE REASON WHY HE OR SHE IS BEING DISCIPLINED.CHILDREN ARE ASKING  TO BE SHOWN HOW TO LAY THEIR FOUNDATION. YOU SEE THE PARENT THAT HAVE NOT SHOWN THEIR KIDS HOW TO BOIL WATER AT 16,17 YEARS OF AGE STILL BOILING RICE FOR THESE KIDS. GOD NO GO GREE . I HAVE AN 11 YEAR OLD STRAIGHT A STUDENT WHOM AM RAISING THE WAY I WAS RAISED BECAUSE I MIGHT NOT BE HERE TOMMOROW SHE WILL BE ABLE TO TAKE CARE OF HER SELF AND HER YOUNGER SISTER IF THEIR FATHER MARRIES ANOTHER WOMAN ...... BY THE WAY I AM NOT DYING TOMMOROW .

[PrincessB]

I do not see the problem with a Mother or Father preparing meals if he/she is at home.

Maybe it is his day off, wife is at work, 16/17 year old may be at work too doing a

part time job and studying. Part of family life is helping each other. It does not mean

that this is an everyday ritual for the man or who ever. It simply means that, everyone

chips in to make the family unit run smoothly. Life in UK is not like Nigeria.

Everyone learns to cook and share household chores. Children too have their own roles

to play. If parents want to cook for their children, that is wonderful.

For a fact there are some Nigerian girls/young women/older women who have never left

Nigeria who cannot cook. What ever the case might be, whether we die when our children

are young or not, They WILL survive. They say.. Condition mek crayfish bend. Necessity is the

mother of invention. What ever situations we find ourselves in, we will find a way to survive.

One of the basic lessons in schools includes cooking both at junior and senior school level.

It is not true that they cannot prepare basic meals. Besides, most children are around their

parents when cooking, and they learn by observation. They might act like they cannot, but

believe me they can. When children are hungry enough they will go to the kitchen.

Na my own be that.

PrincessB

[Tunde]

Well, as a child in the UK myself, I think that we actually know the way of the Nigerian Community, it is just the enviroment around us, that is mainly affecting how some of us act, as the saying goes 'Monkey See, Monkey Do.' If you think about what is going on in urban areas like London and look at the attitude of children there , and how they dress and the music they listen to I think I'll be proven right.

So it is all good to beat the children like in nigeria but it's not really getting things out, you have to change the whole package, before the children are inspired.

[PrincessB]

Well, as a child in the UK myself, I think that we actually know the way of the Nigerian Community, it is just the enviroment around us, that is mainly affecting how some of us act, as the saying goes 'Monkey See, Monkey Do.' If you think about what is going on in urban areas like London and look at the attitude of children there , and how they dress and the music they listen to I think I'll be proven right.

So it is all good to beat the children like in nigeria but it's not really getting things out, you have to change the whole package, before the children are inspired.

Tude welcome to Naijablog
I agree with you, not just children but adults too have to admit
that when you are born in another country or move to another country,
we all adopt some ways of our new home.
The saying When in Rome we do as the Romans comes to mind.

I will still say this that beating does not lead to positive results always.
If a child is constantly beaten and shouted at, they become introverted,
and infact learn a violent way of life from the parent or who ever is
beating them.
You only need to look at the FULL STOP adverts in England by the
society that protects children.

Whatever happened to communication skills?